Offenders often report that their sexually disordered interests or hypersexualised behaviour began in adolescence. If adolescents who are treated for harmful sexual behaviours have low recidivism rates, this suggests we could prevent a significant portion of child sexual abuse (CSA) by intervening at this age—through education, therapeutic pathways and conversations about pornography, rejection, intimacy, consent and sexual health that go beyond consent and respectful relationships education (CRRE).
Michael Salter believes adolescence is a critical time to check in with boys and that by doing so, we could reach potential offenders before they offend—but we are simply not trying. ‘We need to talk to men and boys: Are you whacking off six hours a day? What’s the material that you’re looking at? Are you concerned about that material? We just haven’t created the service infrastructure to support that group.’ If a teenage boy is frightened by his own sexual thoughts, where does he go? If he tells a psychologist he’s sexually attracted to children, what happens next? If he’s consuming increasingly extreme pornography and feels unable to stop, who can help him?
We have systems ready to step in after harm occurs, but almost none designed to intercept before it happens. We know from the 2023 Australian Child Maltreatment Study (ACMS) that a child today is more likely to be abused by an adolescent boy than by an adult, so we are negligent not to focus more intently on teenage boys, providing help to those who need it.
Shaun, fifty-five, is in the middle of a ten-year prison sentence for historical CSA—he abused his stepsons when he was in his early twenties. He was abused by his uncle at the age of eight—something he now believes may have kickstarted the hypersexual behaviour he began displaying in late primary school. As a teenager, he doesn’t recall being specifically attracted to children. ‘It was more that I was highly sexualised and I became very confused as to who I was and who I was attracted to. I experimented a lot. There were guys I used to muck around with, and then I had girlfriends as well.’
In 2016, when charged with indecent assault, his lawyer recommended he see a psychologist. He went to Chamarette’s clinic only because it was the closest to where he lived. He’d never spoken to anyone about his life, and something clicked for him when he did. He ended up doing the treatment program twice—spending $6000—before he went to jail years later for the historical offences. From jail, he still calls Chamarette every week.
He can remember the exact moment when his self-awareness shifted. After watching The Secret, he told Chamarette how stupid it was, how dated and hokey. For two weeks she kept probing him about why he hated it so much, until he suddenly ‘absolutely fell to pieces’, because ‘this movie had got under my skin’: ‘I’d fought it without knowing I was fighting it until it finally slipped in and suddenly—there was me I was watching on the screen. I was the boy that the uncle had abused in the movie. Yep, when he was smashing plates when he was washing up. And the mum and dad don’t understand why he’s doing it, so they just tell him off and to go to his room, you know? Yep. That was me, except I did other things. But then it was me as the adult abusing the child as well. I saw it all laid out.’
I ask him if his aha moment was when he realised that his childhood victimisation had sent him on this trajectory. ‘Yeah, to a degree. But right from the start, I knew what I was doing back when I was twenty was wrong. So it wasn’t like I had an aha moment to say, “Geez, Shaun, what you did back there was wrong.” I knew it was wrong. But you didn’t know why you were doing it. I didn’t know how to put the pieces together.’ With the insight he now possesses, I ask him what he’d say to his fifteen-year-old self. ‘Get help. Get help, go get help. I would say to him, you’re not right. There’s something wrong. Get help.’
He remembers one point when intervention might have happened. At sixteen, he was ‘fooling around’ with a boy a couple of years younger. The other boy’s father found out and phoned Shaun’s father. Shaun’s father promised that he would get help for his son, but he never did.
If someone had tried to help sixteen-year-old Shaun, would he have listened? ‘If it came from the right person, he would’ve. I think he was looking for something, he needed someone, and he didn’t have direction. And he was very lost. And if someone he respected had come to him and said, “Get help,” he would’ve done it. Just to be able to talk to somebody. If somebody had spoken to me about things and got me to open up or whatever, I think it would’ve stopped. A lot of things would’ve stopped at that point. It would’ve stopped the offending, but it would also have changed the course of my education. And all sorts of things, behaviours which snowballed into other things.’
If Shaun’s father did look for help for Shaun, the support he needed may not have been available in his area in the mid-1980s. Intervention with adolescents is known, however, to be extremely effective, redirecting harmful trajectories at an age when the brain and sexual behaviours are still developing, before they get wired in and reinforced through repetition.
Jess Hill talks to me about a case she writes about in Losing It: Can We Stop Violence Against Women and Children?—an Indigenous boy, ‘Luke’, who witnessed his father almost kill his mother. Luke then witnessed a man rape his brother. Luke’s mother turned to drugs and alcohol to cope, and instead of being offered help, her four children were removed into residential care. After Luke tried to sexually assault his sister, he was isolated with two workers, where he started self-harming to extreme levels. At this point, in stepped Sheryl Batchelor, head of Yiliyapinya, an Indigenous-run not-for-profit that works intensively with Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander children and their carers, using techniques underpinned by theories of neuroplasticity to help these children and family members ‘rewire’ their brains and heal.
Hill tells me, ‘This boy, he’s just being left in the too hard basket, he’s on his way to youth detention. And Sheryl’s like, “No, I’m not gonna accept that,” and takes him in and is like, “We’re gonna basically rewire your brain, heal your brain. We’re gonna help you learn to self-regulate, and we’re gonna do that with your mum as well.”
And you go from having a kid who may have gone on using harmful sexual behaviours into adolescence and possibly adulthood, to a kid who’s actually supported and believed in, and has got a hope of being back with his family. That’s the key part: why are we not intervening with adolescents who are showing these harmful sexual behaviours and working with them to interrupt that cycle? Like, that’s prevention, right? That’s preventing them from going on to be the adult who’s doing that.’